Anonymous asked:

What does grayromantic mean?

shades-of-grayro answered:

Most people seem to say it means “experiences rare romantic attraction” but I think that’s incorrect and it should be “someone who is neither aromantic nor alloromantic,” or “someone who is between aromantic and alloromantic.”

Many people are grayromantic who experience romantic attraction of some kind, and it isn’t rare, but different, if that makes sense.

—Mod Kau



Alloromantic: someone who experiences romantic attraction.

  • Heteroromantic: romantically attracted to people of another gender only.
  • Homoromantic: romantically attracted to people of the same gender only.
  • Biromantic: romantically attracted to two or more genders.
  • Panromantic: romantic attraction has no regard to gender.
  • Gynoromantic: romantically attracted to femininity
  • Androromantic: romantically attracted to masculinity

Aromantic: someone who does not experience romantic attraction.

  • Cupioromantic: does not experience romantic attraction, but still desires a romantic relationship.(previously kalosromantic)

Grayromantic: someone who is neither alloromantic nor aromantic, or someone who is between alloro and aro.(Also called gray-romantic, grayaromantic, gray-aromantic)

  • Akoiromantic: experiences romantic attraction, but does not wish for (or does not require) those feelings to be reciprocated. (Can be either akoiromantic or akoineromantic, and was previously called “lithromantic” but there were issues with that term)
  • Demiromantic: experiences romantic attraction only after forming a close bond.
  • Quoiromantic: is confused by romantic attraction, or cannot tell the difference between romantic and platonic attraction.(also called WTFromantic)
  • Recipromantic: does not experience romantic attraction until they know someone is interested in them first.
  • Idemromantic: experiences romantic and platonic attraction similarly or identically, but categorizes them into romantic or platonic based on factors other than the feelings themselves.(source)

A list of romantic orientations! I included all of the ones I could find, but I’m expecting the list to be either incomplete or flawed, so if you have any corrections, please let us know.

Also, if you know the source of a term and it isn’t included, drop us a message and we’ll add it. Thanks!

—Mod Kau



We need to stop seeing autism as some sort of one-dimensional sliding scale. Autism is not a thermometer. It’s not a rating that is “more” or “less”. High-functioning and Low-functioning do not exist in the real world.

Autism is a collection of symptoms and behaviours. Like a sundae bar. You choose your toppings that fit you.

Are you a bipolar extravert that loves socialising, is good at math and bad at remembering time? That’s ONE way to be autistic!

Are you a socially anxious autistic who has meltdowns when your clothes don’t feel right but a genius knowledge of music theory and is great at scheduling? That’s another way to be autistic!

Notice how both of those examples has strengths and weaknesses? Is one more “employable” or “high-functioning” than the other?

There is no one-size-fits-all category or rating for autism.